Ten things a woman should never say to a man.
By the time most men are 30, they’ve heard all of these comments and questions from the women in their lives — and probably more than once.
If there’s someone special in your life now, you might dare send this along to her with one of those “can you believe some men get bothered by this?” comments, just to show that you are above all this trivial guy-girl stuff. In the meantime, you will have given her something to think about and perhaps the next time she wants to call you “cute,” she’ll stifle the impulse before it gets to you.
Good luck!
1) “That looks cute.”
For the most part, men hate cute. We don’t want to hear about it, we don’t want to see it, and we sure as hell don’t want to be it. If we come down stairs after getting dressed and you tell us we look cute, there’s a 100 percent chance we’re changing. We’re supposed to be your protector, your rock, and cute does not fit into that picture.
2) “We need to talk.”
These four words shut off a man’s brain faster than long division. When men hear you say that they immediately go into flight mode. And anything they can do to get out of this conversation—and better yet, your apartment—they will. There are plenty of other ways to approach a delicate conversation, and getting us in a place where we feel comfortable is a good start.
3) “It’s just a game.”
Actually, it’s not just a game. Sports are a major part of our lives and the outcome has as much to do with our mood as just about anything else. Is it fair? No. Is it right? No. Is it immature? Maybe. But it’s life. Sometimes we just care too much. We understand that it doesn’t make sense, but you should be happy that we’re that passionate about something. Telling us that “it’s just a game” is like us telling you that Oprah’s just a talk show host.
4) “Nothing’s wrong.”
Please don’t tell us nothing’s wrong. The look on your face could make the toughest guy on the planet weep like a third-grade girl and your arms are crossed so tight you might explode. We’re not mind readers; tell us what’s going on. And don’t make us guess because—believe me—you won’t like what we come up with.
5) “I sound like my mom.”
The mere fact that you might turn into your mom someday scares the hell out of us. Don’t say it, even in jest—it’s not funny. We actually believe (and pray) that the saying “every woman ends up looking like their mother” is an old wives’ tale. If we didn’t, no one would ever get married.
6) “I just want to be friends.”
No you don’t. You just want us to stop calling you. This is a lot like pulling off a band-aid. Do it quick—don’t prolong the agony. Most of us take “I just want to be friends” as “There’s still a chance,” so if there isn’t just make it a clean break and move on. Everyone will be much better because of it.
7) “Size doesn’t matter.”
Don’t lie to us. We know it does, and we’re doing our best to make up for it in other ways. It’s best just to not say anything at all.
“What are you wearing?”
We’re wearing whatever’s clean or whatever you tell us to. We don’t plan out our wardrobe days in advance, but we do actually try and look presentable. It may not work a lot of the time, but we do give it a shot. Giving us direction is completely encouraged though, so go ahead and suggest … nicely.
9) “Do you think she’s pretty?”
Of course we do, our standards are much lower than yours. But just because we check her out doesn’t mean we think any less of you. We try to be as discreet as possible, but for the most part, we can’t help it. It’s in our DNA. When an attractive woman walks by, it’s best to just pretend nothing happened.
10) “Which outfit do you like better?”
I’m going to be honest here—90 percent of the guys out there are not going to tell you which outfit they like better: They’re going to try to pick the one you like better and not get into a holy war when the babysitter is due any minute. To us, you always look good. Getting a couple cocktails and spending as much time as we can without the kids is our ultimate goal for a rare night out.
Restoring Trust in a Relationship: Getting Your Ex Back After an Affair.
by Karen Martinez
How do you get your ex back even after you’ve cheated? Some people claim that an affair should always end a relationship. But I disagree. I believe that every relationship is savable if both parties really want to work on it. This article is about restoring trust in relationships.
Restoring trust in relationships requires an adjustment in attitude and actions. Even after an affair, it is possible to save a relationship. But that starts with ramping up the level of trust within the couple.
If you have had an affair, you have had an attitude which allowed you to stray. There may be something at the relationship’s core that is diseased. But you can heal the disease. What was it that you were looking for when you strayed? Was the sex humdrum? Was she too busy for you? Was she just not spending enough time on her grooming? You wouldn’t have had an affair if the primary relationship was perfect. So, what needs to be done to fix it? Often that lies in self analysis. But just as often, that lies in the couple’s relationship.
Restoring trust in relationships means fixing the underlying problems. Sometimes that means going into couples counseling. But just understanding our thoughts isn’t enough. The next step is to take concrete action in fixing the problems.
The secret to restoring trust in relationships lies not in talking about the right things, but in doing the right things.
One of the biggest things you can do is to make small promises and keep them. If you promise to take the trash out every evening, do it. And, do it consistently. When you demonstrate that you can be trusted in the small things, a gradual sense of confidence will be realized in the larger picture of the relationship.
Your girlfriend or wife is going to need constant reassurance that you have changed. This means that you are going to need to apologize more than once over time. You will also need to treat the recurring comments about the violation of trust as a matter of course. It is not easy for her to forgive the breach. If you want to stay with her, you will be patient with her.
This does not mean that you must feel guilty about the indiscretion forever. In fact, if you allow her to constantly guilt trip you, she will not be satisfied in the new relationship you are building. Just be understanding.
Finally, you need to put a positive spin on the incident. Treat it as an opportunity for both of you to grow as individuals and for the relationship to mature. Just as a bone grows stronger at the place it has been broken, a relationship can improve after an affair.
Restoring trust in a relationship takes time. It requires that you change both your attitudes and actions. But it is possible to heal the divide and be a stronger couple as a result.
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Five Types of Women You Should Never Date.
Women are wonderful and it’s a joy to date most of them but some of them are so screwed up that they’ll make your life a living hell. Let’s face it there are some women who are nightmares to date and they should be avoided at all costs. These are the type of women that suck the life out of you one way or another.
Life is about energy and these types of women will drain you of your energy and drive you into a place in life that will not be fun. So, it’s best to know about these types in advance so you can proactively avoid having these negative experiences.
Emotional Evelyn – The Basket Case Evelyn is the kind of woman who can’t control her feelings. Everything is emotional. She reacts to situations in the extreme. Everything has to be exaggerated to the extremes and her life is always filled with drama. As a result you’ll never be able to find a moment of peace because when nothing is happening she’ll create a pile of drama, even fights just to ‘feel’ that something is going on.
Barbara Bride – The Bride To Be Most women want to get married at some point but Barbara is obsessed with marriage. She’s spent her entire life planning for her special day and mapping out the life she’s going to be living with Prince Charming. No matter how good you are, though, you’ll never live up to her imagination. You’ll fall short and your life will be a constant nagging of how you could do better.
Depressed Diane – The Buzz Kill Diane is always negative. No matter what you suggest, no matter what everyone around her is doing she’ll find the negative in the situation and fail to enjoy herself. Anyone around her who’s having fun will have her negative feelings thrust upon them. If they don’t react accordingly she’ll feel offended and feel that you don’t care. Misery loves company and if you’re not miserable too then you aren’t relating.
Gretta Gold Digger – The Legal Prostitute You’ll be able to spot Gretta easily. Everything is about money. She’s always making references to money or the value of things. If you find yourself out on a date with her recognize that money is something we all need but with her it’s the other lover that you’ll never live up to. No matter how much money you have or share with her it will never be enough.
Tammy Torturer – The Evil Witch Tammy is a stealth master. In fact, she’s an abuser. This is the kind of woman who enjoys the pain of others and in most cases she’s the nicest, sweetest girl that nobody would ever suspect. Any time she’s held accountable she’ll deny the truth and feign hurt feelings. She turns people against themselves and others and she’s never at fault. She’s the destroyer of lives.
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About the Author
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
